Have you guys seen this article circulating around facebook?
The resounding theme of this column, to me, is grace. Or lack of.
At the same time, the title, Why don't friends with kids have time? rings true. Pursuing friendships is a challenge with children.
I admit, pre-children, I didn't have a lot of grace for mamas, or anyone that wasn't as efficient or as intentional as I was.
Mostly, because I just didn't get it.
Now the whole, It takes 45 minutes to do what takes others 15, is ringing in my ears!
I've always been a little slow to figure out the way things are supposed to go.
I remember once asking a college friend if she'd like me to go with her to register for her wedding. Yes, that's right, I really thought I should be the one to help decide what she and her future husband would like in their home.
And seriously, I was a little hurt that she didn't take me up on my "generous" offer.
Today, it's laughable that I would have even offered my "services" to my friend. Brad and I had so much fun choosing things to add to our registry. That's the way it's supposed to be.
I lacked perspective. And, I lacked grace.
I've said before that the very hardest thing I've ever done was becoming a mama. It has stretched me in more ways than I could have possibly prepared myself for.
The greatest gift that stretching has given me? Grace.
The "hard" of becoming a mama, the infinite number of possible challenges that can creep up with mama-ing has given me grace.
You don't have time to talk with me right now?
You're running late?
You need to cancel last minute?
It takes you a few days to return my phone call?
Grace to you.
I get it.
I get the constant-ness of mama-ing. Whatever is present to you---work, school or just life--it can be constant-ness too.
So, I completely understand that when you finally get a sweet break in the constant-ness, sometimes, you just want to do your own thing or nothing.
I'm grateful to Brynne and Hadley for helping me to be a more grace-filled person.
Have you had a life event that has caused you to give grace more generously?
Linking with Jen.